I let this hold me back too long...In my adventure as an entrepreneur there is this one thing that has held me back the most in my businesses. I imagine that if it is something that I struggle with, it is something that you might struggle with as well whether you're a business owner or not, it applies in all areas of our lives. And that is taking things personally!! Especially rejection, or no's, or ignores, or criticism, or any of that negative feeling stuff that comes with putting yourself out there.
But what I have learned from many sources over the past few years, one being Don Miguel Ruiz in his book The Four Agreements, is not to take things personally. Seriously, this is the hardest thing for me to do, since my business is selling my services as an expert, I see the no's as a reflection of my competence, credibility, likability, and overall value. Logically I know I have expertise in my chosen field. I went to school for many years for communication, conflict, leadership, and organizational development. Logically I know I add value based on how many people I have helped and continue to help based on their positive feedback, evaluations, referrals and continued business. Despite this knowledge, there is that small part of me that still wants to be liked and takes the no's personally.
But I am working on it! And because I have made the decision to work on this area that has been holding me back, my belief system gets stronger, I take more action, I recover faster from the no's, I talk to myself more positively. Now, when it does creep in I am faster to remind myself of what is true and not true when this mindset issue threatens to hold me back again.
Now my particular issue may not be your issue. But the solution to both of us is the same. First, we have to get clear on what it is that is holding us back from pursuing our highest self, our purpose, our dreams, the desires in our heart. These desires can be personal or business related, but for whatever reason, we haven't pursued them because something in our our belief system or mindset is holding us back. Once we know what is holding us back we can take steps to remove the block and move forward toward our goals!
Now this is easier said than done, which is why we need support. The very best thing I have done or myself personally and professionally is find mentors and coaches who can help me along on this journey. I find this support through books, videos, podcasts, live events and one on one coaching. Since there are so many options for support, there is no excuse to allowing our particular fears or issues to continue to block our dreams and personal growth.
For me personally, working with a coach one on one is the most effective thing that has helped me move faster through my blocks and on to achieving the results that I want in my life and business. And I can tell a HUGE difference in the times that I have had a coach and have not. Because my results are less than stellar personally and professionally on my own, I won't ever go without a coach again!! I believe that strongly in the power of personal coaching. I'm a better me when I have a thinking and accountability partner to get super vulnerable with, without judgement and bias and help me process, overcome and then accomplish. It's really a powerful tool!
I see these breakthroughs in myself and in my clients and it is really cool to get to be a part of helping someone transform their story and go for what they really want. If there is something that you're putting off until 'someday' or you know there is something holding you back from achieving, I would love to work with you. Maybe you're just in need of a thinking partner to help you navigate the daily challenges of leading yourself and others well in your life and business. I can help with that too! Maybe coaching isn't for you right now, and that is ok. But maybe it is!
Now, I know coaching can get pricey, I have hired coaches upwards of $10,000 and I personally know coaches who charge $100,000 for one year of coaching with them. And you know what, they are worth every penny! But I know that is not in everyone's budget. That is why I am offering a spring sale of 25% off on my 3 and 6 month coaching packages through the end of this week. This is the lowest my coaching prices have ever been and will ever be! This is a pretty BIG savings of $500 off my 3 months package and $875 off my 6 months package. Here is a link to read more about my one on one coaching packages: http://annamarieolson.com/workwithme/one-one-coaching/
If you think you are ready to get moving past whatever is holding you back and start achieving what it is you truly want, I'm ready to help you. I offer a complimentary consultation so that we make sure we are a good fit for each other before we get started. If this offer by any means piques your interest, reply to this email to set up your consultation this week! Hurry because the offer ends Sunday, April 3rd.
I will share this one last personal story before I go...when I worked with my first one on one coach, six months to the date that we started I had done everything I said I wanted to do, including moving to the exact beach that I had put picture of up on my vision board. I know without a doubt that I would not have done that, at least not in that amount of time if I hadn't worked with my coach! So what changes do you want to make in the next few months of this year? How likely do you think you are to move past whatever is holding you back and accomplish this change on your own? There is a reason the most successful people in all areas have coaches!
If you're ready, I am here to help! If you're not, that is ok too. I won't take it personally ;)
To your success!
P.S. Maybe this isn't for you right now, but you know someone who is...I would love it if you'd send them my way! Make sure they tell me you sent them and I'll be very happy to send you a special little thank you gift.
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